Step 1 Introduction

Introduce Friendship as today's topic. You can read the 'Importance of Friendship', 'Key Messages' and 'Key Outcomes' for further information.

The importance of FRIENDSHIP

Friendships created during a child’s formative years are important because they help to shape the world around them. A child's ability to interact with others can greatly improve their social outlook and self esteem. Learning the necessary social skills to make and maintain healthy friendships early on sets us on a path of connection rather than isolation.

A study published in the American Journal of Public Health, conducted by Kristin Schubert, program director at the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, measured the social skills of kindergarteners into their adulthood over two decades. Schubert’s study “shows that helping children develop social and emotional skills is one of the most important things we can do to prepare them for a healthy future…. From an early age, these skills can determine whether a child goes to college or prison, and whether they end up employed or addicted.”

It’s a pretty hard-hitting thing to say but the research is there, those that have greater social skills are better equipped to solve-problems without aggression or social withdrawal.

Key Messages

Friends look out for each other
Friends are aware of each others emotions and circumstances. Even as children, friends know when their friends are sad or upset.
Friends share all sorts of things
Being friends means that you share time, experiences and material things (within rules).
Friends care about each others feelings
Friends consider other’s feelings in what they say and do.
Friends like spending time together
A natural result of friendship is that they do tend to spend time together because it is enjoyable for both parties.
Friends don't force us to do things
A good friend, even at a young age, will respect their friends wishes and not try to force each other into doing things they are unwilling to do.
It's good to have friends. Friends are special
Sharing friendship is enjoyable and beneficial, and is good for one’s self esteem and feeling connected. They should be appreciated and valued.

Key Outcomes

Friends that are kinder and more caring
Feeling included and recognised within a social or class group.
Enhanced sense of place and belonging
Feeling included and recognised within a social or class group.
Greater enjoyment of friendships
Stronger bonds and positive outcomes.
Understanding how to make friends
Being able to reach out confidently and without fear of rejection.
Increased empathy
Understanding feelings or to “put yourself in someone else’s shoes” and feel what they are feeling.
Heightened resilience through understanding
Being able to deal objectively with inevitable rejection from time to time.

Step 2 - Watch Video

Click image to open video player.
(Video is about 3 minutes long)

Step 3 - Mantra

The catchy Friendship Mantra is designed to re-enforce the key messages.
(Kids love saying it together.)

The Friendship Mantra

“A good friend will share,

A great friend will care,

A best friend will always be there!”

The Friendship Mantra is attached below as a printable. Why not print and display it?
They look great as wall decor in a complete set for all topics.

Step 4 - Class Discussion

Start a conversation with the class. Explore topic specific suggested questions. These questions are designed to re-enforce the key messages delivered in the video.

You can use the slide presentation to help illustrate and structure the conversation.

Class Discussion – Scrolling Slide Presentation

Click on the image below to open the presentation in a new window

Suggested Questions

• Who do you enjoy spending time with?

• Why do you like this person so much?

• What kinds of thing do you enjoy doing together?

• How do you look out for your friends?

• What do you share with your friends?

• What has been your favourite experience with a friend?

• Should you do everything your friends do, even if it goes against your idea of what is right or wrong?

• What would life be like without friends?

• Can you make a new friend today?

• What makes a best friend?

• How are they different to friends or strangers?

Step 5 - Activity

Today's suggested activity or game is Compliment Hot Potato. A fun game designed to share positive attributes about friends.

Activity : Compliment Hot Potato!

Compliment Hot Potato: In pairs, toss a soft ball from one person to another and give that person a compliment. Must be quick, so say the first thing that comes to mind!

Step 6 - Kids Who Know Song

Have some fun with the Kids Who Know signature tune and dance! It's a great way to wrap up today's topic! Press play and you can click bottom right to make the image full screen.

Click on us to download the song lyrics


If you’re not sure what it’s about,

We’re right here to help you out.

If you need a helping hand,

We’re the kids that understand.

For cool advice and friends that care,

Kids Who Know, we’ll see you there!


Kids Who Know – shows us what to do,

Kids Who Know – and what to say,

Kids Who Know – we are the key,

Kids Who Know is the place to be!


Kids Who Know – shows us what to do,

Kids Who Know – and what to say,

Kids Who Know – we are the key,

Kids Who Know is the place to be!


Kids Who Know is the place to be…


Printable Resources

Click on the images to download hi res .pdf files

A4 Task Sheet

A4 Task Sheet

A4 Mantra

A4 Certificate

Wall Poster (A3 or A4)

Synopsis - Parent Communication

This is a summary document which you can email to your parent list or print out for the children to take home.

Click image to download it.

A4 What we did today sheet